Have you ever experienced a heartbreak so deep it felt like the world was ending? The kind that leaves you unable to eat or sleep, completely consumed by pain and sorrow? This isn’t just any breakup—this is an abandonment crisis.
What is an Abandonment Crisis?
An abandonment crisis is more than heartache; it’s a painful mirror reflecting wounds from our earliest experiences. This type of heartbreak occurs when a romantic relationship touches your deepest emotional wounds and then ends, often abruptly. It reopens old wounds, leaving you raw and exposed, like salt on an unhealed cut.
This experience awakens the inner child in you, a younger part of yourself you may have buried for protection. In these relationships, that younger self begins to emerge from hiding, perhaps for the first time in years, only to be triggered and then left unprotected when the relationship ends.
The Real Pain Isn’t About the Other Person
When we experience this kind of relational pain, we often focus on the person we were with. It's natural to think the agony of heartbreak is solely due to losing them. But in reality, it has very little to do with them and everything to do with the old, unhealed wounds that have resurfaced and demand to be healed.
Turning Pain into Healing
What I want to share with you is that this heartbreak is a divinely guided step on your journey. It’s a call to finally heal those buried wounds. This heartbreak isn’t the end—it’s actually a beginning. An abandonment crisis is your opportunity to address trauma that’s been buried deep within you for far too long. While the process can be painful, embracing it is a chance to transform into a version of yourself you may not even recognize—and yet one that is deeply, authentically you.
My Story and the Birth of The Healing Fawn
One of my most profound heartbreaks was the catalyst for my healing journey and the start of my practice, The Healing Fawn Inner Child Work & Somatic Therapy. When I faced my own abandonment crisis, I felt completely alone. I cant express more, that this deep sense of aloneness was palpable throughout every cell in my body. I had a mentor who gently pointed out that I was expressing my feelings like a wounded inner child. I didn't fully understand, but I felt like my world was ending, it was very dark, with no light at the end of the tunnel. I had never felt this type of low and hopelessness before.
Being a hyper-independent people-pleaser, it had always been challenging to admit I needed help. But this was different. I had no other choice. I started to learn, read, and research, and I realized my therapy needed to go beyond talk therapy. Trauma-informed, somatic therapy and inner child work weren’t easy to find, so I went back to school for somatic therapy certification, hoping to heal myself and find a truly happy, healthy life. Halfway through, not only was I healing, but I also realized how many people deeply need this type of support. We’re not taught to feel; we’re taught to think, even though true healing comes from feeling.
The Healing Fawn: A Space for Transformation
I created The Healing Fawn to help others navigate abandonment crises and address inner-child wounds that disrupt adult life. Through a step-by-step program, I guide people through each phase of their healing process. I create a safe, supportive space where clients can confront their painful memories while also learning to feel joy, discover what feels right in their bodies, and grow beyond their wounds.
So, if you’re going through a heartbreak that feels insurmountable, remember that it may be your call to begin healing. The Healing Fawn is here to support you every step of the way on this journey.